In short, I think Tremblay is on to something very important, but I don’t know how we can start turning the tide. Part of that stems from what I see as another opposite of love: fear.

Based on a recommendation from an unschooling list to which I belong, I'm in the midst of reading Raising our Children, Raising Ourselves by Naomi Aldort. Although some of her notions have raised an eyebrow, the book does address some of the issues you raise. Her main focus is our relationships to our children, but it seems to me that her suggestions might also have a wider application.

I'd be happy to lend it to you when I've finished it, if you're interested.