Boy do I relate to THAT! :-)

I will simply suggest to you that the situation is no different whether or not you believe that the girl has "rights." Whatever "rights" she supposedly might have are still going to be up to someone else to decide (even if they decide them wrongly in your opinion, and maybe your opinion would be right.) So the bottom line is that it is all upon your shoulders to decide what you want to do, what you are able to do, and what you are willing to do. This is tough, I'm not pretending that it isn't. Actually, it seems to me that recognizing that there are no "rights," no hard and fast and simple rules just makes it all the harder, and I think that is as it should be.

This reminds me of a wonderful essay I read a few years back about how shooting taught ethics: Ethics from the Barrel of a Gun which is a marvelous bit of thinking, in my opinion. I suggest that you may find it helpful, if not in deciding what to do in your particular current quandary, at least in your sense of how you should approach the decision making process.

I wish you well in figuring out what to do.

- NonE