I’ll Let You in on a Little Secret ...

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... by way of explaining why a new issue of Sunni’s Salon still has not appeared.

Even though I get the most positive feedback for the interviews (and they seem to be reprinted elsewhere with some frequency too), I don’t enjoy doing them. Oh, I’m all kinds of happy when individuals agree to an interview—and I typically invest a daydreaming session or two to the questions I’ll ask once it’s time. But I really don’t like asking so many questions ... even though the interview victims consent to my tortures, and so far no one has been reluctant (let alone downright hostile to a question), it just feels intrusive to me. It goes against my nature to do that.

So I procrastinate doing it. And I am still doing that with this month’s interview.

But that’s about to change, now that I’ve confessed.

That's why you're good

Perhaps that's why you're interviews are so good. You don't ask tabloidesque questions of your interview subjects because of your private nature. You ask your subjects about their work and the philosophies behind them instead of the vacuous questions that you find in a typical interview. You are always on point, and I appreciate that.

Um, er, another little secret

From personal experience, I can tell you that confessing your procrastination doesn't make you procrastinate less. In fact, the confession was one way of avoiding doing the thing.

I know this in part because I'm writing this while procrastinating on another project that I should be doing instead of writing this ... I confess!

Infinite spiral

Well, I’d been hoping to be shamed into greater productivity ... but instead I fell into your endless spiral of avoidance!

Why worry?

As one who was delighted to be interviewed for your Salon, I believe I'm qualified to assure you that I felt no pressure at all to say anything I didn't want to. In fact, you made it very plain that you didn't want that to happen and that I should ignore anything I didn't want to comment on.

The end result of the interview - for me anyway - was a very valuable re-examination of a lot of things I'd not given a great deal of thought to in a long time. I found that I appreciated my background and experiences anew, and was encouraged to continue on the path I've chosen.

Stop being so hard on yourself! I know you choose your interviews carefully, and you no doubt make sure they understand they are not being pressured to answer. Let them take full responsibility for what they say then. :)

This time ...

This interview is more challenging than any other I have yet done, for reasons that may or may not become apparent if the results ever see the light of computer screen. I do appreciate your feedback, M.L.!

As for the “being so hard on myself” ... well, I’ve been trying. Long story short, there’s a lot of familial baggage in that, and despite trying to clear it out, I have obviously not been completely successful (and my efforts have been hindered by recent developments which I don’t want to get into here).