Not Much of a Celebratory Mood Around Here

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I apologize for my manners (viz., the lack thereof). I hope that everyone has had, is having, or will have a lovely holiday season, of course. But there just hasn’t been much to celebrate of late ... and recently, another surprising development knocked our moods back even more.

I’m not really at liberty to reveal or discuss the news, so all I’ll do here is point to one of my favorite sad songs from my youth and say that its primary message has been on my mind for some time now. I don’t actively wonder after every goodbye if that’s the last time I’ll see the person ... rather, I’m reflecting on many people I’ve loved over the years, and in some cases, wondering why I still have loving feelings for some of them.

So as a result of all three of us not really being in a celebratory mood, our solstice celebration was almost low-key enough to be nonexistent. We put up our exterior lights, lit the yule candle overnight for the solstice, and had a nice dinner. I think that all three of us were a little relieved that we didn’t try to do more. It was enough just to be together.


I'm sorry, Sunni. Sending you all the bright, positive, loving energy I can and hope that tomorrow is better.

I am sorry you are going

I am sorry you are going through a hard time. I hope things improve soon.


May things improve soon, and may all those old feelings sort themselves out one way or another. I can relate better than you might imagine.


So sorry to hear that you and the snolfs have suffered a setback. I was definitely thinking about you three on the solstice, and hoping that you were having a good day. Please know that you're all in my thoughts.

2013 can take a hike

I know too many people who have had a rough time in 2013 and/or 2012.

Best wishes to you and your loved ones in the new year.

Thanks, everyone.

I apologize for not being more clear: it isn’t really bad news per se... just an unexpected transition. After thinking about it for a while, I actually think it could end up being to the good for all three of us.

The other stuff—all the emotional tangles—are more challenging to deal with. I happened across an interesting essay that was immediately helpful, though: Learning to Measure Time in Love and Loss.

Here’s to better days ahead for all of us, and those we care about.